there are two insignificant things you should know about me
first, I LOVE a good theme party
second, if I had been on The Office I would have been head of The Party Planning Committee
when I was graduating high school 11 years ago (!!!) I threw myself an "Oh the Places You'll Go" themed party. I have always loved that book and it is still the longest book I willingly read to my daughter.
there is a line in that book that reads,
when you're in a slump
you're not in for much fun
is not easily done
I mentioned in my last post that I've been in a sort of rut, so recently I've been focusing a lot of my efforts on how to un-slump, so to speak. Here are seven ideas for un-slumping and making small strides forward.
1. focus on IDENTITY
when I'm in a slump it is usually because I am focused on who the world says I'm not, rather than who my Father says I am. I am currently reading Victory Over the Darkness by Neil T. Anderson and it has been incredibly affirming. (I have it linked to Amazon at the bottom of this page and highly recommend it!)
2. explore new/old HOBBIES
when I became a mom I slowly forfeited all my hobbies. That was never the intention but everything I did felt like a battle and once I started my degree, I realized it was healthier to set them aside during that phase than struggle with constant feelings of failure. Some of the things currently on my list are scrapbooking, reading, film photography, and embroidery.
3. build COMMUNITY
I am SO bad at this. I will drown in loneliness rather than put myself out there. Fears of rejection and plain shyness have caused me to hesitate at building friendships, putting myself out there in the blogging community, and cultivating community at church. In Genesis, God said that it was not good for man to be alone. We were literally created to live in community and any fears that interfere with this need to be silenced. For me this looks like showing up ... at bible studies, local events, mom meet ups.
4. guard your HEART
This one may be strange but when I'm in a slump, spending too much time on social media makes me feel more discouraged and disheartened. Guarding your heart in this sense, to me, is about being aware and sensitive to where you are emotionally and not willingly putting yourself in situations where you may struggle with jealousy, comparison, insecurity, or inferiority.
5. do something NEW
A recipe, a place, a television show...for me ruts can look like Groundhog Day. For example, I have been watching The Office on repeat for MONTHS.
6. SERVE someone
Again, this can be simple or require lots of sacrifice but serving others ALWAYS benefits the one serving. Send a card, shoot an encouraging text, make a meal, pray with/for, babysit, just listen...look for ways to love others.
7. SIMPLIFY something
I don't do well in clutter. Piles on my counters, toys all over my living room, junk mail filling my inbox ... it all makes me feel overwhelmed and frazzled and impacts my mood and productivity. One of my goals is s l o w l y decluttering and simplifying all the corners of my house so that we aren't holding onto material items we don't need or use, and to make our small space more efficient and peaceful.
It was really important to me to think of things that could be accomplished on both major and minor scales. Sometimes I set overly ambitious goals that are defeating before I even step forward. Un-slumping requires small, even minuscule, steps forward not giant leaps.
Also, I wanted things that are affordable. So many times I have found myself discouraged reading self-care or "pick-me-up" lists because massages, weekends away, and/or shopping sprees are simply not feasible.
If you've been feeling down lately, I hope that something in this will be an encouragement to you and you will find your own collection of ways to un-slump yourself.